Help what do you do..

[Tiare]

Help what do you do when your 2 teenage sons all of a sudden have discovered that rum (from my bar) is quite good? they didn`t used to like rum..but now..the last of my Havana Club 7 was taken out! by my son...eek.gif

They also start to like my Tiki drinks..

[robercw]

Present him with the bill to replace it?

[Rum Runner]

Present him with the bill to replace it?

PERFECT!

I would also explain to them that if they wish to learn and experiment with rum in a responsible way, they should ask to do so. If they wish to be treated as adults, they need to act as such. Otherwise a heavily padlocked cabinet will be installed faster than they can say "Mai Tai".

[Count Silvio]

I prefer the Spartan method.

[Tiare]

Otherwise a heavily padlocked cabinet will be installed faster than they can say "Mai Tai".

Right! thankyou.gif

I thought they were more or less over and done with the "crazy teenage drinking" they haven`t been doing it for a very long time..but maybe this was an exception..luckily it wasn`t more than a third left of rum in that bottle.

Maybe its a good idea to start hiding the more expensive rums..

[Rum Runner]

I prefer the Spartan method.

I had no idea that the "Spartan Creed" had ventured so far North. However, I do find your solution to be stoically Nordic.

[Rum Runner]

..but maybe this was an exception..luckily it wasn`t more than a third left of rum in that bottle.

Maybe its a good idea to start hiding the more expensive rums..

Methinks so...Their taste is evolving to the more ethereal at an alarming rate!

The apples do not fall far from the tree.

[Tiare]

I think its time to start teaching them a little about rum.

[Jerry]

Many years ago, I invited a friend over for a drink only to discover that my favorite bottle of Drambuie was mostly water. What are the ages of your teenagers? (At the time, mine were about 16.)

[stockdoct]

i think......it is important to keep SOMETHING yours, and not theirs. When the child is 8 years old it might be LEGOS, when the child is 12 it might be his bicycle. At 17 it is his rights the car, and at age 25 it is his trust fund.


At each venture, you have the right to take away his future if his behavior is not sufficient.

Is he willing to give up his driving privileges, if your rum quantity drops?

[Tiare]

Well, he have a year and a half until he can drive..

But after my lesson yesterday (again) about how to use quality rums he came to the conclusion that its better to not drink so much..simply because the cheap stuff is awful and he is not interested in sipping..

But now he have put in a situation where i either go and buy a new HC7 or those nice pair of shoes that i want..and i cannot buy both at the same time...

[Count Silvio]

So he is 16-17? He should get a summer job to pay for his own booze. By the way, you have a private message at RV.

I had no idea that the "Spartan Creed" had ventured so far North. However, I do find your solution to be stoically Nordic.

Well, Greece is not that far...

[Tiare]

He has a summer job..he creates web pages..and get well payed too. But he is too young to buy alcohol and i refuse to do it.

[Count Silvio]

Okay so he will give you the money for the booze he drank, no?

[Tiare]

Actually, he already has, today, in a way. He got me a new flatscreen for my computer to a extremely reduced price bought from one of his friends. My screen was going to break down so i`m very happy now with this one.

BTW: You have a message at the RF.

[Hank Koestner]

Boys will be boys......he must know that there are consequences for all actions , good or bad. So, as stockdoct said, you can teach him to be responsible by removing freedoms, but only if you must. He is obviously a good young man, I think we can all attest to sneaking a drink now and then when we were young.

[Tiare]

I think we can all attest to sneaking a drink now and then when we were young.

I just got reminded by a old friend of mine who i grew up with and spent my teens with, she told me when she heard i now make drinks that i she remembers how i used to mix drinks and weird concoctions from my dads homebar when they were out..we were about 15-16..i had forgotten..

[stockdoct]

Boys will be boys......he must know that there are consequences for all actions , good or bad. So, as stockdoct said, you can teach him to be responsible by removing freedoms, but only if you must. He is obviously a good young man, I think we can all attest to sneaking a drink now and then when we were young.

Absolutely

I've been a daily drinker since the age of 17, and I've turned out just fine (although I take care of many who sadly couldn't control it) There are many other things you do that can be taken away --- laundry, food, groceries. It sounds para-normal to say "you got drunk and I'm worried about you, so you can do your own laundry until i get trust back of you...... but I would do that in a second if I thought my kid was heading in the wrong direction.

I've taken the other approach; I've TRIED to get my 16 year old to drink with me ..... first by giving him Guinness Beer (yechhhhhhh!!!!!! Dad, thats GROSSSS) then by offering him Goslings Black Seal straight up (that smells NASTY!) hehehehehehe

I've told him if he's gonna drink, drink the good stuff. He might be punished if I find a 6 pack of Sam Adams in his garbage....... He will CERTAINLY be punished if I find a 6-er of Bud Light --- double punishment, once for drinking, and once for drinking crappy stuff.

He laughs, and i do too, but I thinks he understands.

[The Scribe]

This may seem dilatory, but trust me, it isn't. We have a tradition at my house called Whisky Kiddush after Yom Kipur. After a day of fasting and repentance, Jews traditionally bless and drink a cup of wine to break the fast, as they sit down to the meal. Now for reasons that are no doubt twisted, the tradition in my family is instead of having a sip or two of wine to take a shot of whisky.

When I was six, my grandfather came up to me with his shot glass, and said "Son, take a sip of this. Make that a very small sip. You may just want to touch your tongue to it." Well, I had my tiny sip...and I didn't have a sip of straight spirits for another twelve years.

My parents did, however, give me alcohol, at first in the form of wine with Friday night dinner, and later, as I grew older, with dinner whenever they were serving it. Eventually, that extended to beer (and yes, my father likes his beer dark), and eventually, I learned to sip spirits. Regardless, I never felt a need to illicitly drink alcohol, after all, alcohol didn't seem like anything special. Moreover, what I drank at home was a ton better than anything my friends could get their hands on...

Hope that helps a little.
Cheers. - S

[Berbician]

Scribe,

If everybody had the same attitude to alcohol as your parents and grandparents have or had, the world would be a far better place. My own upbringing was very similar to yours, and I have never yet had too much to drink on any one occasion.cheers.gif